#Has Lockdown Revealed The True State Of Your Relationship? #Here’s How To Deal…
There’s nothing like being shut in a confined space with no one but your other half for 3 months to draw attention to unresolved ‘issues’ or discovering new ones. With a 40% increase in divorces, the pandemic has brought a more harsh reality to the global table than we bargained for. If the elephant has gotten so big you can no longer escape the room, read on. Here are some common relationship situations and how to deal.
1.When You Should Wait And See How Your Relationship Progresses
2020 has been one hell of a dive for everyone (apart from makers of disinfectant and face masks). Nothing is normal and stress is at an all-time high. Should you find yourselves at loggerheads and bickering over nothing, it may not signal the end of your relationship. Being cooped up together, having nothing else to focus on will cause the best-suited couples to fall out. If you feel you love each other, and the constant bickering is over nothing serious, just hang on in there. Take a breather in another room. Once life returns to its new normality, you will likely find so too will your relationship.
2. Relationship Truth: If You Are Strangers Who Avoid Each Other
Scenario no.2: You both listen out for when the other person is about and wait for them to leave before going about your business. You manage to muster up a couple of forced pleasantries at best before dispersing into opposite ends of the house. You are 2 strangers with only space in between – and with a face mask on you can’t be absolutely certain they are who you moved in with (joke). Even though you are the only 2 people in your house and you have had zero human contact; you avoid each other.
Life before lockdown enabled you to blanket over this stark situation. Work-life and hobbies were distractions. Now there are none and you are faced with reality. Do not take this as anything other than positive. In a sense, the lockdown has probably saved you years of future unhappiness whereby you may have carried on pretending and muddling through. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt – life is too short to do this.
3. Relationship Over: You’ve Discovered He / She is Someone You Hate
There is nothing like being stuck with someone 24/7 to uncover some truths. Have you? If you have found out his nasty ‘joke’ comments aren’t just down to a warped view of funny, but actually covering up a real sinister personality and you don’t feel safe, think on. If you are being blatantly lied to and you know there is a hidden agenda at play, run for the hills. Now is the time to be strong and reclaim your life. They have no right to take it. You deserve to be treated with real love. No one should have to live with a liar. No good can come of it.
4. Relationship In Question: You Are Friends
If your relationship has slipped from in love to ‘having love for’ this is a cause for deep concern. This is probably the hardest to deal because neither of you will want to hurt the other person and had it not been for the lockdown you would probably have plodded on together. If you have become friends and there is no attraction there anymore, it is time to call it a day, no matter how difficult a pill it is to swallow.
Make sure it is not just a case of losing the spark. Sometimes couples go through a dip. Add extreme stress to the mix, and it is a recipe for rubbish times. If you have tried to do the romantic nights, wine and talks, etc, and there truly is nothing left, you need to face facts. Sit down together and have that chat. At the end of the day, nothing lasts forever, nothing stays the same. In that sense, neither do bad situations. Once you deal with a situation life will begin to improve.