Newly Launched Bald Dating App Takes The World By Storm

Love comes in many forms – and baldness is one of them. Knowing how much A-listers such as Samuel L. Jackson, John Travolta and Bruce Willis rock the look, it is no wonder the newly launched dating app, ‘Bald Dating,’ has already amassed such a huge following.

Being a ‘niche dating man,’ bald entrepreneur David Minns, of Chester, realised a gap in the dating market. He states that he created this online platform due to the amount of ‘hatfishing’ being reported. This term describes bald people who (when adding their profile image), choose to keep their baldness hidden underneath a hat. Given there are so many people who either don’t mind the shine or prefer the bald look, any concerns surrounding the loss of hair should be eradicated. There should be no place for feelings of self-doubt or shame – and David Minns is swiping left to this stigma.

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However, there can be no swiping found on this app, as it is designed for people to contact potential partners immediately. The refreshing new site, Bald Dating, offers real help to singletons experiencing hair loss. The app removes any concerns about a negative reaction, enabling people to find love and embrace their baldness.

The dating site founder explains:

“Being bald can be very hard for some people and they lose their self-confidence. Bald Dating was created to show that being bald doesn’t matter.”

“There are many people who don’t mind you being bald and there are even others who prefer it,” said Mr Minns.

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The app is available globally and currently costs nothing to join. Furthermore, there are no nasty hidden upgrade charges for communicating (so get the bargain while you can). The only stipulation being is to be bald or happy to date a person who is. The Bald Dating app works by clicking a ‘like’ button; thus, enabling people to connect and begin a wonderful romance.

There are no age restrictions – anyone above the age of 18 years-old can join. This app states that it regards the safety of members to be of paramount importance and they do not allow nudity.

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Adding a profile image is not compulsory and each member has the choice of adding up to 9 pictures, should they so wish.

Should you be bald or have thinning hair and find it difficult to approach a potential suitor – this app may just be the way to go!

Visit Bald dating: https://bald.dating

For further reading, try: ‘6 Ways To Be A Nicer Person.

Loved And Lost Vs. Never Loved: Which Way Is Better?

Loved and lost or never loved at all: Which way is better?

The question of whether it is better to love and lose, or never love intensely at all poses itself to most of us (usually about a month after a breakup). Having cried like a baby for the fourteenth time, I switch off the movie, ‘P.S. I Love You’. When the mascara-streaming, snot-pouring hideousness that this film bestows upon me eventually subsides, I reach for the tissues and begin to analyse.

What is making me so sad, apart from the obvious heart-wrenching plot (of which seems to have become my latest, favourite type of self-sabotage)? I’m reminiscing over past all-encompassing love I once held dearly and then lost. People change, time marches on, life can be cruel.  But the scattered ashes of emotion in the grounds of my soul remain solid, as if untouched by time. Somehow unaffected, it is embalmed within this infinite universe. Nothing can ever change this, whilst I am forever changed.

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Memories of other relationships begin to seep in. The ones that didn’t go so well. You know the ones I’m talking about. Words of love were present, but the jigsaw would forever be incomplete. The one who never really loved – not in the way a person should. Niggles and worries are planted before the first morning together. Eventually, those doubts grow into shadows that darken all else. Possibilities of anything other than weeds growing become as likely as meeting Chris Hemsworth in Tesco. It’s never personal (on so many levels). This is the person who never allows love.

So, I ponder over which way of living is better. It’s tempting to sway towards never encountering a loss that cuts deep and never heals (for obvious reasons). But then, what are we all here for, if not to experience love, to be open and let someone in? Would we miss out on the whole purpose of existence?

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Nothing lasts forever; thus, the odds of losing that relationship and love are as likely as getting a hole in your favourite socks. However, if you are lucky enough to find someone that can hold out their hand and cling to your heart, with an imprint that remains until the day you die, you have pretty much-achieved life’s goal. Painful as it is to lose, just having that, knowing its truth should be the incredible take-away from it all. Life without such amazing beauty is simply no life whatsoever.

Quirky Advent Calendars That Bring Something Else To The Table

Let me just get this out there first – for me, beauty advent calendars are #1 (see here), closely followed by Galaxy advents. Long gone are the days when advent calendars are only for the younger generation. Brands realise that grown-ups love an advent (maybe more than their children do). Since discovering this fresh new and exciting twist to celebrating the Christmas countdown, my eyes have definitely been opened. Take it from me, yours will be too. No spoilers, but you can rest assured that by day 23, blindness may be an issue.

1. Lovehoney’s Best Sex of Your Life Advent Calendar, $130 (Worth $365), www.lovehoney.com

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Obviously having an advent calendar that brings you the best sex of your life depends on with whom you may be sharing your world. However, should you be in a happy, sincere and trusting relationship this calendar will be just the kitty for sprinkling some passion into each day. It even includes the toy that took the internet by storm – the clitoral suction vibrator (worth $80). This toy gives multiple orgasms (apparently). What better way to celebrate the Christmas countdown? Hmm, maybe I will exchange this year’s beauty advent after all.

2.The Snaffling Pig Pork Crackling Advent Calendar, £16.99, www.iwoot.com

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Take the title any way that fits – I had immediate visuals. But I’m thinking everyone knows someone who will enjoy this innovative calendar of savoury treats (apart from vegetarians and vegans, so make sure you do your research people). Combining 6 unique and award-winning flavours such as Low & Slow BBQ, the calendar will get any man’s mouth to water (although if you’ve purchased the previous calendar this may not be an issue). Also hidden behind the doors are pigs in blankets. Who the HELL doesn’t love pigs in blankets?

3.My Protein Ball Co. Protein Balls Christmas Advent Calendar, £17, www.amazon.co.uk

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Now for those who prefer fitness and a more vegan lifestyle – behold the Protein Balls Advent Calendar. This is such a hit it’s quickly selling out everywhere – so be quick if you want one. It appears that many of us remain on the health kick, making the calendar a huge hit. Included are 100% natural, gluten-free and vegan treats to help you approach Christmas with optimal fitness. It is no surprise the healthy alternative is such a success! Just saying – I want to be there, but I’m not quite ready to give up the chocolate and wine…yet.

How To Help A Loved One Who Is Being Emotionally Abused

Hey, Lovelies!

The pain of seeing a loved one in an emotionally abusive relationship and feeling unable to help is incredibly hurtful. You love your daughter/friend/mum/sister. You can see what is happening and the ending, like you are watching the worst movie ever, but you can’t just get up and walk away. Meanwhiles, it’s as if they are blind.

They have an invisible bubble surrounding them and each time you try to help, you are pushed away and regarded as the enemy. Your loved one believes you are there just to burst this precious bubble. All you see is a toxic mess – certainly not something that should be treasured. Something that should be buried, but not because it is special. Because no one should ever have to experience it again.

The problem, as many of you will know only too well, you will not get through. Each attempt results in their turning on you. The manipulator has weaved a perfect web, played the long game and taken over her world. Constantly niggling, chipping away and planting seeds of doubt. Debasing you and them via little whispers every day.

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It’s a clever (but somewhat sickening) trick – give them a taste of bliss – of what pure love is and plant it. Water it a little and then rip it out the ground. The threat of them leaving leaves your loved one desperate and willing to accept anything they say. Even at the cost of the people who actually love them dearly. Self-esteem keeps dwindling as they question everyone and themselves, feeling so alone. So, what do you do if you are in this situation?

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I have been on both ends of the scale. I have suffered at the hands of a physically and psychologically abusive ‘partner’ for more years than I care to remember. One thing I can share is that this behaviour is enabled far longer than the point of realisation. Instead of escaping, time drags as the persecuted feel there is nowhere to turn, believing they deserve all they get. This turns into a self-perpetuating cycle (as so many things in life). Breaking that cycle is so hard, but it isn’t impossible. People hardly ever change. Patience, time and understanding are crucial factors in recovery.

This is an ongoing issue, so it is still a learning curve for me. I fear the worst and hope for the best. Having extensively researched ways to help, I put these practices in place. Sometimes they work a little, other times not so much. But what they do is press pause on anything deteriorating too much. If you don’t feed the anger, if you keep quiet and just listen when needed, there can be no ammunition when they are back in a brief cosy spell before the next episode. Here is my advice:

1. Don’t Speak Your Thoughts

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I know this sounds awful but hear me out. After countless times of seeing a loved one distraught and saying what I think, I concede this does not work. Also suggesting they leave or pointing out the obvious will end up biting you on the bum. Once peace between them is restored his ammunition gets an upgrade: “She wants us to split up because she is jealous.” This doesn’t end well. Only say what you think if asked, and even then, you must be as tactful as possible.

 2. Help by Listening

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Listening is undervalued, it really is. Just listening when they are upset will help. They know they can come to you, without judgement.

3. Be There for Your Loved One

Be there for them, plain and simple. It doesn’t matter what time of day or night, let them know they can call you at any point and you will be there. Knowing this will give them a little support and confidence if the situation worsens.

4. Give Them Breathing Space

They will be feeling pressured, stressed and overburdened. The last thing you want to do is give a lecture. Give them space to breathe and reflect.

5. Keep Watch Over the Relationship

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Although becoming too involved will just add to the problem, this does not mean you should ignore things. Keep a slightly distant eye on what is going on and ensure there is always communication between you both. That way you are prepared to step in and act/assist as soon as you get the green light (or if you believe the relationship has reached a level that warrants outside intervention).

I will keep adding to this as events progress. When I discover anything that works or similarly anything that doesn’t, I will post. In the meantime, if anyone is going through this or knows someone who is, be strong. Be kind to yourself. Any thoughts, please leave a comment in the messages below. Stay safe. xx

Is Someone Gaslighting You? Here’s How To Deal With Them

‘Gaslighting’ is the term used to describe when a person attempts to dismiss another’s concerns. This is done by trying to convince them, that they are either crazy or their perception is imaginary; thus, achieving enough self-doubt in their beliefs to stamp out the issue.

There are many reasons your partner may be trying to gaslight you – but they all come down to the same basic fact – they want to avoid detection. Check out the following gaslighting examples and how to effectively deal with them:

1.Cheating

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The #1 reason for gaslighting. Have you ever been in a situation when things do not seem right, and explanations of certain behaviours or missing times do not fit? You don’t have solid evidence, but you know in your gut something is definitely up. When you approach your partner to voice your concerns, you are told you are crazy, and imagining everything. However, the niggling doubts do not leave.

Solution:

We do not get these gut instincts without a reason. Granted, certain mental health disorders can cause a person to be unjustly paranoid and equally cause another person to behave in a way that may cause unfounded alarm bells to ring for another. However, if this is not the situation – then it’s time to listen to your instincts. Asking them clearly won’t achieve anything, so put your Sherlock hat on and do a little detective work to get the answers you deserve. Do not be gaslighted!

2.Money

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Money is definitely the root of all evil. People go crazy for it, behave in the worst manner ever to attain it or prevent other people having it– and a lack of it can create a host of arguments that really should never happen. If you feel you are being duped and when you enquire you receive a gaslighting response, think on. Always protect yourself. The best thing about this gaslighting is that it is very transparent. Although hurtful, once realised you can learn a lot about someone’s personality and how they should truly rate in your life. Take note and move on accordingly.

3.Gossip

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With the age of social media gossip has reached unprecedented levels. When it is about you (and worse still, when it is not true) it is the worst feeling in the world. Yet, even though we are aware of this, the market for general gossip is ever-growing. Go figure.

If you hear rumours are circulating about you, but have no clear evidence, try to be strong. Fake news or gossip grows like cancer in people’s brains and can destroy peoples’ lives. If you ask and you know you are being gaslighted, I would offer this advice: Do not search online for it will send you insane – and if you find something, it will eat away forever more. Instead raise your head high, live your best life and ignore anyone who tries to throw shade your way. You are amazing and these people are not worth a tear.

The problem is that with social media it isn’t hard to take someone down. Once you are discredited any protest you make is laughed off, and you are simply adding to their list of reasons for calling you crazy or a liar. Understand that the angrier you become, the more the gaslighting individual can grin and say, “See what she’s like?” The only thing to do is develop a thick skin and carry on (but with your wits about you).

Have you any gaslighting stories you can share? Share your thoughts below. Be strong people xx

6 Signs You Will Be Fighting Over The Bathroom

Hey Lovelies!

I hope you are all having a good week. We all know and hope equality should extend to all areas in men and women’s lives – but if we are honest, do we really want total equality when it comes to bathroom usage? We love the fact that men are taking care of their skin like never before. However, does anyone stop and think about the constant battle over will bag the bathroom first each day? Should you be about to take the next big step and move in with your man and are worrying that their self-preening may overtake yours, read on. Here are 6 warning signs there may be problems afoot:

1.He “Borrows” Your Moisturiser

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According to news reports, Ryan Reynolds recently prepared for the Golden Globes with a variety of skincare products, including lip balm, toner and MAC Set Powder. Now, if they are bringing their own to the table, that’s probably okay (if in doubt, see above). However, I don’t know about you, but my moisturiser and serum are 2 of my most treasured possessions and at risk of sounding selfish – I won’t share them. If your fella is borrowing your skincare products, this may be a sign of things to come.

2.His Eyebrows Look Better Than Yours

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He may just be really lucky in the looks department, but when it comes to eyebrows, the general rule is that some amount of effort is needed – particularly if his eyebrows are appearing neater and prettier than yours. Serious bathroom time, people.

3.Always A Bath, Never A Shower

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Does he frequently refuse a shower in favour of a bath?

If so, logically speaking this is going to take a big chunk of time (possibly every day) even before the mirror time takes place. That is unless your fella is like mine and literally does everything (EVERYTHING!) in the bath.

4.You Already Fight Over The Bathroom

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If you are about to take the plunge and move in together, my guess is you have probably spent a few nights at each other’s houses. During these times, cast your mind back to whether or not you have had to stand with your legs crossed waiting for him to vacate. There’s only so much time someone can spend on the loo, surely? Red flag, ladies.

5.He Knocks On The Door

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When you are in the bathroom, does he knock on the door impatiently? Do you have to rush? #Bigclues!

6.If You Set Your Alarm Early And Still Have To Wait

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On the occasions that you spend together, you decide to set your alarm so that you get bathroom time without stress, only to discover your guy has also read “The Three Little Pigs” and got there earlier still.

Should any of these signs be familiar, you may have an insight into what the future holds. If you happen to be someone who isn’t that fussed if you leave the house looking the worse for wear, whilst your other half appears so sparkly, he could be off to a modelling shoot, you may want to revise the living situation (or at least make sure your new place has two bathrooms).

Happy Friday people xx

Should You Ever Accept A Guilt Gift?

Hey Lovelies!

Yesterday, for the first time in our 9-year relationship my partner bought me a gift – a beautiful silver bracelet. Now, although I would like to say what a sweet thoughtful gesture this was, my more cynical side is screaming in my ear that given the fact that I have never been given presents, this gesture comes with a side order of guilt. Which leads me to the question: Should we accept a guilt gift?

1.Confirmation

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Firstly, you need to be sure this is a guilt gift. Love the facts. Is it out of the ordinary to receive a present? Has the bearer of the gift acted out of character lately? If it’s your partner and he/she is usually a narcissistic pain-in-the-ass, who never buys you gifts, then it’s more likely to be due to buttering you up or fear they have been caught out. Do a little digging, talk to the person involved about how they are feeling – listen to what they say, and your gut instincts should tell you if this is a guilt gift or rather fear of detection.

2.The Source

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Accepting a guilt gift wholly depends on the reasons you are being given the present in the first place. For instance, if a family member has spoken out of turn and wants to make amends, this should perhaps be recognised as a genuine olive branch and thus be accepted. However, discovering the reason may sometimes take a while longer. People often offer gifts as a way to compensate for behaviour, of which they are unwilling to disclose.

3.Truth or Lies?

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Accepting a gift that has been offered in an attempt to blanket over a trail of deception is probably not going to solve anything. My solution is to talk to the person involved. Even if they choose to lie to your face, you will be able to pick that up and find another way to move on. In this instance accepting any guilt gift would be a bad idea (unless of course it happens to be a pair of Prada boots or a big fat diamond necklace). On the other hand, a sincere guilt-fuelled present with genuine remorse, honesty and attempts at reconciliation should perhaps be praised and graciously accepted.

Have you ever been given a gift out of guilt? Did you accept it and what were your thoughts? Leave me your comments below and happy Friday people xx

How To Deal With Unwanted Family Situations At Christmas

It’s that time of year again – decorations, chocolate, mulled wine, presents…oh, and the joys of the not-so-festive family members. Sure, some of you may be thinking, ‘What a bitch!” But’s let’s get real about this – if you are honest, there will inevitably be at least one person in the vicinity of your extended family that just…y’know. If you are sat there thinking there’s really no one in your family circle you’d prefer Focker style ‘out’ then you don’t know how lucky you are! Damn!

For the rest of us, here’s a little advice to help you deal with the inevitable situation:

Over the years I’ve tried pretty much every angle of dealing with the yearly HELL – alcohol, avoidance, humour, ridicule, sweat and tears. So, without much ado here are my tips for dealing with the usual suspects:

1.The Sibling.

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Now, let’s get one thing straight – family is family, and you can’t choose them. Do try to overcome issues, for if you do, you will be a solid rock to one another through the good times and bad. However, sometimes reality just sucks. Your brothers or sisters may not be very nice people and there’s not a hell of a lot you can do to change that. If making an effort results in relentless backstabbing, if you don’t feel they consider or treat you any better than if you were a piece of crap, my advice is to walk away.

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Relentlessly making an effort year upon year, of which always ends in stress does not make you altruistic – it makes you sadistic! Arrange times to see the nice family members. After all, isn’t life about keeping misery at a minimum? Christmas day is but one day of the year, so make arrangements to avoid all unnecessary pain and don’t feel guilty.

2.The Parents-in-law and Step-Parents 

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Hmm, tricky one. Not much you can do in this situation except make sure you have alcohol, but not too much, and ensure you have somewhere to go for a breather (nipping out to see another family member/friend). Organise a time slot and explain you would love the entire Christmas holiday with them but your duty calls to do the rounds amongst other family members. If they are particularly mean, have a quiet word with your S.O and let him/her deal with the problem. Should they be unbearable this year, make a note and book a holiday abroad in time for next Christmas!

Should the area of concern be a particularly cruel step-parent, you may find they have already thought ahead and omitted you from their Christmas plans. Problem sorted.

3.Husband/Wife/S. O

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Have you heard the phrase “You made your bed, so lie in it.”? I know, it’s a little harsh. However, if things are bad, take some time to see if you are causing some of the issues and what you can change about yourself to make the Christmas period smoother. Then, do the same for him and have a pre-Christmas chat. A calm conversation devoid of accusations, but brimming with ‘I feel’ and solutions. Then stick to them, don’t over-drink, try to put things aside and simply enjoy Christmas for what it is. Most importantly do not over think and do not stress out. Should you feel you are biting craters in your lip, get some space for an hour and chill.

#dealwiththeissue

Come January, if things are still this bleak it’s time to revaluate your status IRL!

 

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